I can see into the eyes and lives of both genders. I can sympathize with certain things when it comes to girls, I can understand shit ya’ll have been through, and I am not going to deny it. I am also not going to feel odd when having a conversation regarding things that are typically for/about girls.
I will talk about how much it sucks to have a period, because guess what, i’ve had one, or two, or at least like 50 by now.
I will talk about bra’s, and how they are suffocating, and how they are irritating to wear because if my strap shows, I will stop passing.
I will talk about being catcalled, because in the past I have been catcalled, and it sucks. It made me too self-conscious and it hurt.
I will talk about predators, sexual assault, and rape. Because I have been a victim in that world before.
I will talk about boys, okay I admit i’m honestly just Gay, so yeah i’ll talk about boys with you.
I will talk about the pressures of society on girls, I will talk about the sexism and inequality there is, because I have seen and suffered it first hand.
I will talk about these things and others because I have lived it. I will talk about these things because for 18 years society pegged me as female, and until I figured things out, I rolled with that. I will talk about these things because I was born with a uterus and boobs. I was born with more estrogen in my body and it made certain things different for me growing up.
Even if I can sympathize with certain female issues that other males may not be able to, I also will do things typical of guys and can sympathize with a lot of things guys go through.
I will talk about male privilege. I will talk about how things are easier for guys in certain aspects and how there are double standards that are absolutely absurd.
I will talk about how girls are confusing as hell, because they are. I don’t understand how they operate, I don’t understand most of the crap they do.
I will get into pissing contests, because why not! They are fun and it further instills some male characteristics within myself. They also fill a certain odd need of being competitive with other males.
I will talk smack and be a dude. Talking shit with other guys about and at each-other while you all are sitting right there, teasing and griping, it’s all part of that culture, and it’s something I have and will continue to do.
I will walk, talk, and act like a guy, because I am one.
The thing is, I am really only human, I am unique, and not just because I am Transgender. I fill stereotypes of both genders and that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to be who you are, and just live life to be honest. Also, when someone is transitioning, if you know they are, lend a hand, they may not automatically know how to live the life of that specific gender. If you can, invite them out to be with you and your friends on a guys or girls night. Get them involved, give them tips, and just be generally supportive. Also, don’t judge them if they still relate to the gender they grew up as, it’s hard to let go, and if they let it go quicker than you would think they would, or are kind of in the middle and let it go in certain aspects, but don’t in other ways, then just let them be who they are, no need to judge.
Being transgender is unique, challenging, and has it’s own little quirks, respect that.
